Psychologist names two reasons for the breakdown of marriages: why love is not enough

Problems do not disappear after marriage

Psychologist Mark Travers believes that love alone is not enough for a long-lasting and strong marriage. He argues that couples often break up not due to a loss of feelings, but because of a lack of skills to build relationships. These conclusions are expressed in an article from Forbes magazine, cited by 'Glavkom'.

According to glavcom.ua: According to the psychologist, most couples assume that after getting married, conflicts resolve themselves. However, research by psychologist John Gottman suggests that roughly 69% of problems in marriage are 'eternal' and require constant resolution. The author emphasizes that conflicts in a couple are normal and arise from differences in character and habits; the main thing is to argue wisely and without insults.

Marriage is constant work

Another important lesson emphasized by the psychologist is that marriage is an ongoing process, not just a one-time decision. Modern society idealizes marriage, but it requires daily efforts to maintain and strengthen the relationship. This requires showing attention to your partner, helping them, and being able to compromise.

Psychologist Mark Travers stresses that a successful and strong marriage requires not only love but also the ability to build relationships and work on them constantly. Research indicates that conflicts are a normal part of relationships, but they are resolved wisely, without insults and aggression. Marriage demands attention, effort, and mutual understanding every day to preserve and strengthen the relationship with your partner.